The last trip in a long time and some life-altering decisions to be made

2 Sep

Last night we returned from a wedding/family trip. A very good friend of mine got hitched (and looked like a very happy fancy cake while doing so, in a sea of lace and glitter), and since part of my family I never get to see quite often enough lives only about 80km from the place where the wedding took place, of course we had to make the detour.

I love our new car. And still, after about 600km in two days I think i have had enough for a bit. But I got to admire my father’s giant zucchini (and this is not a euphimism, so get your minds out of the gutter!), eat lots of good food and see parts of Germany I had not seen before. Unfortunately I was driving about 3/4 of the time, so no idyllic pictures. ^^

The next few weeks will be rather boring and hectic at the same time. We pull this combination off quite frequently. No more big trips until November, I guess, but our landlord is starting modernization of the building, which will lead to lots of dirt and inconvenience. Plus after modernizations the rent will go up, to a level I am totally not comfortable paying. Hence in four to seven months we will have to move again.

Richard’s and my ideas on moving vary. I have moved more times than I can count – sometimes to another part of town, sometimes several hundred kilometers. Home is where I live, no history attached. I am good at this. Honestly, every three or so years I start getting restless. He, on the other hand – his family lives about 50km from here, and except for the occasional move when he had to, he has not gotten around all that much. Even moving in together 3.5 years ago was quite the adventure, and getting him to abandon his broken-wooden-floor-with-shower-in-the-closet-and-toilet-outside-of-the-flat flat (with water coming out of the electric sockets, one memorable December morning) – let me just say I had to make all kinds of naughty promises. Which I kept. ^^

I see similar conversations in our future. Right now we have a great place – rather cheap and large, with huge windows looking onto trees and hills, with a lovely forest just a few minutes from our door, nice neighbors and a bus into town every 10-15 minutes. It is next to impossible to get similar conditions when moving. If I had my way, I would move into one of the villages around town, where it is possible to get larger flats with garden for less money, and all you have to keep in mind is that you need a car to get around (there are busses as well, but not as many, and public transportation can get expensive). Richard, on the other hand, would rather compromise on flat size to stay in town, although he is not yet willing to accept that in this case we will have to cram all our stuff into one office. Which is okay by me, just… I am not sure he really sees our options.

Fortunately we are good at talking these things through. And we still have lots of time on our hands. The final decision will only have to be made in December – rent or buy? City or countryside? How many bedrooms? Leave the country altogether? But for someone like me, with clear ideas of where I want to go and how to get there, it is exhausting to have the same conversations over and over and over, with similar results – and we have only just gotten started.

So that is the state of affairs. I will share pictures of my balcony garden these coming days, before I have to tear everything down so the landlord can start putting up new windows and such. Not much success this year, not enough sun. At least it’s green and cozy. And I will return regularly to keep you up to date on our plans.

(Right now my favored option is hitting him over the head, hard, and hoping for amnesia so I can make all the decisions and convince him it was his ideas all along. Ahem. ^^ )

How do you solve problems like these? Any good at compromising?


One Response to “The last trip in a long time and some life-altering decisions to be made”

  1. georgina aka greekwitch September 6, 2013 at 11:16 am #

    Samhain?Already? Haha! I understand!

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